Those of you who know me well, and maybe those of you who just have picked up on a few things between blog posts and Facebook statuses, will not at all be surprised to learn that I love school supply shopping. I love the lists, the organization, the labeling, did I mention the lists and the organization? I take the "steady supply" part seriously having a handy container with all the extras at the ready.
I loved watching as a younger Gabriel would pick out a Transformer Thermos, a Star Wars lunch bag, a super hero backpack, Disney Cars themed folders. As he entered 2nd grade, he started moving away from the themes and more to colors. I loved this too because who doesn't love the green folder with the green themed notebook for the same subject?! Coordination is the Type A person's dream. Gabriel enjoyed finding as many different colors as he could. Picking out his backpack was a science: he would compare each style and color weighing the pros and cons. I would patiently wait enjoying all the options and his mind processing it all.
Then came Third Grade.
He picked out a black Adidas backpack complete with a laptop space, a bag more appropriate for college than 3rd grade. I blamed his father.
A paperbag was all he wanted on days he decided to pack his lunch. A great joy was found in my heart on days I got to put soup in the Tranformers Thermos.
Half way through the school year, Gabriel made a rule that I love yous had to be said before he opened the car door and all the windows had to be up. What choice did I have? I had to comply. Some days he would say I love you back while standing on the parking lot pavement and shutting the door leading me to giggle at the rule breaking.
While in my naive mother mind, I didn't think 3rd grade would be such a year of change, I definitely was not prepared for what would happen next.
Gabriel and I attended the "Getting Ready for 4th Grade" week long program at his school. While I knew it would be a year of change and challenge, I didn't expect to be sitting in a school desk when my son's childhood would flash before my eyes. That week Gabriel and I spoke a lot about 4th grade expections. Gabriel understood that this may be his first year of real classroom challenge and he definitely understood the homework change. "Mom, you will help me learn how to study, right?" Gabriel asked as we went over how tests would work and that this year books would be coming home daily. "Of course. You are very smart this will be a good year for you, but it will be more work than before" I replied. Gabriel said he knew and he felt prepared.
I felt like crying.
Which I did, a few weeks later while standing in Target. By the school supply section. Looking at an Angry Birds lunch box and a little girl carrying a Barbie bag. I looked away only to see them: the Disney Cars folders. Stupid Mac and Sally, I thought, as I dried my eyes hurridly walking towards sporting goods. I'd get erasable pens and reinforced college ruled paper later.
About two weeks ago, Gabriel attended soccer camp at St. Ignatius High School. As we were in the car talking about how camp went, he said "ya know, mom, St, Ignatius isn't that far away really. I mean I am half way to high school now. I will be there soon." he added, as he smiled. I saw the excitement in his eyes, he really does like it there.
Today I sorted school supplies while thinking about how my child was right. High school is around the corner. My days of buying Disney Cars products are over. My days of helping my child reach his full potential in school, are just really beginning. Thankfully, I layed a great foundation full of flashcards and awesome twist Crayola crayons.
I understand your pain with the switch in the kinds of school supplies. This year is the first year since 1977(when Amy started kindergarten) that I have not purchased school supplies. I miss that, but I won't miss lesson plans and grading papers every night.
ReplyDeleteIgnore the Mom said at the top of the comment. I can't get it to change.
Ann